We see it on TV and movies a lot. The idea of a midlife crisis is extremely common in society and can be found as the butt of many jokes. But what actually is a midlife crisis and who does it effect? And how can we avoid or help ourselves through them when the time comes?
Midlife crises are not mental health diagnoses. The CDC reports though, that there is some evidence of happiness dropping for people between ages of 40 and 60. The CDC also reports that this age group has the highest rates of depression. Now it’s time to ask Why? One reason might be that reaching “midlife” is one of the first times we do not think of ourselves as young anymore. These changes force you to rethink everything, including your job and your marriage for example. For a few individuals, the time of their midlife is a time for intense reflection, and there may be regrets or “what if’s” about their lives that may not have been there before.
What one person may think of a crisis may not align with how someone else views a crisis. It’s been difficult for researchers to actually agree on what decides that it’s a midlife crisis. While it’s typically thought that a midlife crisis involves the fear of death or the desire to be young again, the emotions experienced during a midlife crisis may not differ all that much from a different type of life crisis.
The American Psychological Association says an emotional crises is evident in from a clear and abrupt change in behavior. Some examples can include:
- [ ] Neglect of their personal hygiene
- [ ] Dramatic changes in sleeping habits
- [ ] Weight loss or weight gain
- [ ] Pronounced changes in mood like anger, irritability, and anxiety
- [ ] Withdrawal from relationships
If you’re thinking of making some major life changes and this desire is stemming from some inner turmoil or uncertainty, it could become a good idea to talk to someone, like a therapist or even a life coach.
Some things I can recommend now to help turn your crisis into a more positive experience include simple things like:
- [ ] Focusing on yourself; love on yourself and give yourself some needed attention and affection.
- [ ] Learn something new; a hobby or a new book, etc
- [ ] Reconnect with friends and family
- [ ] Find new ways to stay active
Midlife crises are on a case by case basis, as not everyone is the same and is going through the same things. Many people think of a crisis as different things, so it’s important to respect that as well. If you feel like you need help to keep yourself on the right track and you’re feeling a little lost, reach out to me to see what steps we can take to help get you back on track.
