One of my clients told me a story recently. First week at a new job. Good position. Respectable title. People shaking his hand like he belonged there. He said he sat down at his desk, opened his laptop, looked around the office… and had a very honest thought. “How the hell did I get this job? These people are about to find out I have no idea what the f*** I’m doing.” Now here’s the funny part. This man is smart. Experienced. Qualified. He didn’t sneak into the building. No on

Being the one everyone depends on can slowly become exhausting. At first, it might even feel good. People trust you. They look to you for guidance. When something goes wrong, you're the one who can handle it. But over time, carrying everything alone starts to take a quiet toll. I see this often in my coaching work with driven professionals. These are capable people, leaders in their families, respected at work, the person friends call when things fall apart. From the outside,

Lazy people don’t sit around mad at themselves. They’re not replaying conversations in the shower. They’re not lying in bed thinking, “Why can’t I just get it together?” They’re chilling. So if you’re frustrated…annoyed…or low-key mad at yourself… Congratulations. You care. And that matters more than you think. Frustration Is Not Laziness Somewhere along the way, people started confusing stuck  with lazy . They’re not the same thing. Lazy is indifferent.Lazy shrugs.Lazy doesn

People leave relationships all the time. They leave jobs. They leave cities. They take breaks. They “find themselves.” And for a minute? Things feel better. There’s relief. There’s space. There’s that honeymoon phase  where everything feels lighter and quieter and calmer. And then… it fades. Not because leaving was wrong,  but because nothing actually changed. I see this pattern constantly. And if I’m being honest, I’ve lived it too. Leaving feels productive. It feels like ac

Habit Formation is About Learning, Not Willpower One of the most common misunderstandings around habit change is the belief that success comes down to discipline. In reality, habits form through learning, the same biological process the brain uses to adopt any repeated behavior. At first, new routines require conscious effort. The brain has not yet decided whether this behavior is worth keeping. Over time, with repetition, the brain gradually shifts the behavior into automati

There was a year I thought being a good dad at Christmas meant buying everything . I’m talking the latest toys, all the games, toys in big boxes that would surly make my kids light up. I mean a brotha was spending his last dime  like money was just gonna magically reappear in January. I was stressed. Overthinking. Proud, though. Real proud.Like , yeah… Pops did his thing this year. Then my five-year-old opened her big, beautiful gift. And instead of playing with her barbie dr

This week, we’re featuring a guest post from my guy, Dr. Nick Church of Somerset Medical here in Atlanta. If you’ve ever struggled to build habits that stick, Nick breaks down the science behind why and how to finally create routines that support your energy, health, and peace at home. Enjoy. We’ve all made resolutions that faded after a few weeks — to exercise more, eat better, sleep earlier. The truth is, building healthy habits isn’t just about willpower. It’s about workin

Some mornings hit different. Not because something’s wrong but because you’re tired of doing everything right  and still not seeing it line up. I’m Sharif Colbert , founder of LifeCoachATL , and I’ve been reflecting on how even when you’re coaching others to stay strong, there are days you have to coach yourself too. I’ve been putting in the work... coaching, creating shirts, renting cars on Turo, staying positive, staying grateful. I’m out here pushing. But lately, the retur

The Weight Men Don’t Talk About Most of us were raised to carry and not to share. We learned early that feelings were “soft,” tears made you weak, and stress was something you worked through, not talked about. So, we carry. We carry pressure, disappointment, and guilt for every moment we feel like we came up short, as dads, husbands, sons, or men. But the problem is, carrying too much weight doesn’t just wear down your shoulders, it shuts down your heart. You stop talking. Yo

I can remember being a kid and hearing things that stuck to my skin for years. “You think you’re grown.” “Stop crying before I give you...

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I’ve talked to so many men who carry shame and judgment like a backpack full of bricks. Some of us feel ashamed because we don’t fit into...

With the good comes the bad or maybe it’s with the bad comes the good. I talk a lot about who I am today, but I haven’t always been this...

We don’t like to admit it, but sometimes a child’s first bully isn’t a classmate on the playground... it’s their own parent. I’m not...

You ever find yourself fired up about change new goals, better habits, stronger relationships but somehow that fire fizzles out before...

Look, I get it. The last thing most men want to do is sit around and talk about confidence. We’d rather debate football stats, argue...

I’ll be honest—there was a time when I genuinely believed I’d ruined my chance at being a good father. Divorce has a way of putting a...

2020 was a rough year for everybody, but especially my youngest. That kid is a social butterfly through and through. Like her old man, I...