Co-Parenting from Different Backgrounds: 3 Ways to Find Common Ground
- LifeCoachATL
- 5 hours ago
- 2 min read
By Sharif Colbert, LifeCoachATL
As a life coach and a dad who’s been through divorce, I know that co-parenting isn’t always easy — especially when you and your child’s other parent come from very different backgrounds. Whether it’s religious differences, political views, or how you approach discipline, these clashes can create real tension. But here's the truth: your child doesn't need you to agree on everything — they need you to show up with consistency, respect, and love.
At LifeCoachATL, I help dads rebuild confidence, even in complicated family dynamics like co-parenting after separation or divorce. So today, I want to share 3 ways to co-parent more effectively when you and your ex come from different worlds.
1. Lead with Respect — Not Agreement
You might be co-parenting with someone whose values are wildly different from yours. Maybe they’re more religious, more conservative, more liberal — or just have a totally different parenting style. The goal isn't to “win” the argument. It’s to model respectful disagreement and keep your child out of the middle.
🧠 What to say:“I know we don’t see eye to eye on everything, but our child is watching how we handle this — and I want them to see two parents who can work together.”
At LifeCoachATL, we teach dads how to be confident in their own parenting without having to control or dominate the other side.
2. Establish Shared Goals — Even If You Have Different Methods
You might not agree on bedtime or screen time, but you probably agree that you both want a happy, healthy, emotionally secure child. Start there. Define what success looks like for your kid, not for your ego.
🎯 Real-life example: I once coached a dad whose co-parent was very strict with discipline while he leaned more gentle in his approach. We worked together to find middle ground — where structure existed without fear, and emotional safety stayed a priority.
3. Focus on What You Can Control — Yourself
You can’t force someone else to change their beliefs or parenting style. But you can show up as the most grounded, consistent version of yourself. That matters more than you think — especially for dads who are divorced or separated and feel like they’re losing influence.
💬 Try this mindset:“No matter what happens on the other side, my kid knows what to expect from me: honesty, love, and consistency.”
At LifeCoachATL, I help dads step into their role with clarity and confidence — no matter the background of the other parent. We walk through how to communicate clearly, set boundaries, and lead with heart.
Final Thought:
Co-parenting from different backgrounds doesn’t have to be a battlefield. In fact, your child can benefit from seeing two adults who may disagree — but still respect one another and stay focused on love. You can be that dad. You can be the steady voice your child trusts.
And if you’re struggling with how to navigate those differences, you're not alone. I've been there. Many dads have. That's exactly why LifeCoachATL exists — to give you tools, support, and the confidence to parent well, even when it’s complicated.
Let’s build better bonds, even when the background is messy.
Comments