He’s Not Cold...He’s Carrying By Sharif Colbert | LifeCoachATL I help dads/men turn guilt into peace at home.
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The Weight Men Don’t Talk About
Most of us were raised to carry and not to share.
We learned early that feelings were “soft,” tears made you weak, and stress was something you worked through, not talked about. So, we carry.
We carry pressure, disappointment, and guilt for every moment we feel like we came up short, as dads, husbands, sons, or men.
But the problem is, carrying too much weight doesn’t just wear down your shoulders, it shuts down your heart.
You stop talking. You stop laughing. You stop connecting. And before you know it, the people you love most start thinking you don’t care.
Truth is, you care deeply. You just don’t want to fail one more time by saying the wrong thing.
How Silence Starts to Hurt Home
When men stop communicating, peace doesn’t grow, it fades.
Your partner starts guessing what’s wrong.Your kids start assuming they’re the reason you’re quiet. And little by little, everyone starts to protect themselves instead of each other.
I’ve seen it over and over, in clients, friends, even in myself. It’s not anger that breaks families; it’s unspoken pain.
That’s why I created LifeCoachATL , to help dads turn that guilt into peace at home.
Because the silence might feel safe for a moment, but over time, it’s what creates the most distance.
What Carrying Looks Like
It’s not always obvious.
Sometimes it’s overworking or chasing peace through productivity.Sometimes it’s snapping too fast and the weight comes out sideways. Sometimes it’s isolating and needing space, but not knowing how to ask for it.
Men don’t go numb because they don’t feel, they go numb because they feel everything.
How to Start Setting It Down
You don’t have to drop it all at once.
Start by being honest with yourself first. Admit when you’re tired. Admit when something hurts.
Then tell one person. Your partner, your friend, your kid or someone who deserves to see the real you.
Peace doesn’t start with perfection; it starts with permission. Permission to stop performing and just be human again.
POPS PROMPT (For Him)
What’s one thing you’ve been carrying that nobody sees? Write it down and then promise yourself you’ll start setting it down, piece by piece.
POPS PROMPT (For Those Who Love Him)
Think of a man in your life who’s been quiet lately. Instead of asking “What’s wrong?” try “What’s weighing on you?” The difference might be what helps him finally put something down.
CALL TO ACTION
If this hit home, share it with a man who might need to hear it.
Look, I know sharing blogs or videos isn’t always natural for us as men — but that’s part of what I’m trying to change.We don’t grow alone. We grow together.
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I got us, fellas.