It happens to everyone; something doesn’t work out or go as planned, or you didn’t reach a certain goal in a timeframe that you were planning on. When things like this happen, it’s easy to not take ownership and blame happenings on someone/something else. Making excuses helps us feel like it’s okay to live with things that don’t work out/failures, and they can provide us reasoning for why we just may not be good enough.
Many of us are capable to do anything that we put our minds to, and a lot of us constantly make excuses when things go wrong or before we even try because we are not used to failure. Excuses like “I’m not smart enough, I'm not good enough so why even try, I can't afford help, I just don’t have any time” are all common excuses, and they keep us stuck and stagnant in our growth. Our excuses stop us from moving forward and bettering ourselves and our futures. Success is not always the easiest to accomplish and it’s common for us to realize that our path that we’re taking is not the easiest or the smoothest.
When we come across speed bumps on our path, it’s easy for us to back up or off and make excuses as to why we can’t achieve something. It’s up to us to power through and show yourself and others what you can do, how you can do it, regardless of the circumstances. Letting go of our excuses requires effort, initiative, responsibility, and ownership. Accepting what is and doing whatever needs to get done to move forward is the ultimate goal.
Making excuses is habitual for many people in the world, and it can be challenging to get out of the mindset and change our habits. It will require time, effort and patience with yourself, as well as a different shift in belief of yourself and your abilities. While this is way easier said than done, shifting your mindset and perspective will be the first step in eradicating those excuses that hold us back. Instead of saying “I’m not smart enough”, make it your goal to expand your knowledge and do some research. Ask someone around you or commit to doing some research of your own. Knowledge is everywhere! The excuse of “I don’t have enough time” has been tried and true. It’s up to you to make yourself commit and learn time management skills! If you can’t fit the gym into your day before work, start waking up early and get your butt in there! You will always find the time for things that you prioritize! "I can't afford to get help" Can you afford to stay where you are? Switch the mindset up to, "What will I gain from this?" What can I cut out that's not moving towards where I want to be? Make yourself a priority!
Some of us say that it’s hard to get out of a bad place mentally, without trying to do the work in getting out of that space. Practicing affirmations and even making an appointment with a therapist or even a life coach like ME can help you get on the right track. It’s also important to recognize your boundaries and to be honest with yourself. Scheduling an appointment with someone who is trying to help, and then ignoring them or not showing up is an excuse. If you’re not ready yet, then you’re not. But being honest with those around you and who are aiding you on your mental health journey is important as you progress. The only person that is standing in the way is you.
Now ask yourself, "Why am I making excuses and what am I going to do about it?"If you need an extra push with the excuses that you have and want to move towards a better you, consult with me ASAP so I can help you work towards those goals. No more excuses.... LETS GOOOOOO!!!!!!
