November 17, 2021 · 3 min read

Why start before the holidays?

I can’t wait till after thanksgiving cause I’m about to get this body RIGHT! Come New Year I’m about to be a whole new person. New year New me! I just know 2023 is going to be my year! My money is kinda tight but If I can just make it past Christmas then I’m a start then. I’m going to have more fun, I’m going to be good to myself, I’m going to set goals and crush them all. I am about to be a whole new me come next year!

How many times have you told yourself this or something similar? If you’re like most, probably a lot. I know that you think because I’m a life coach that I’m supposed to always be nice and sweet. No, I’m always suppose to be honest and the honest truth is, that sh@# that you’ve been trying to do for the past five to ten years, isn’t working. Im sorry to be the one to break it to you but 🤷🏿‍♂️ it’s the truth.

Let’s start with weight loss or healthy life style. Whichever sounds best to you. What makes more sense, creating healthy habits in October BEFORE you put on the 10-15 pounds of turkey, ham, gravy, mac n cheese, sweet potato pies, apple pies. Dang I just got hungry. Or waiting until January AFTER you’ve gotten all thick and juicy like that butterball turkey that you keep making sandwiches out of 3 weeks after thanksgiving? Which is way to long to have in your fridge but that’s another blog for another time.

If you’re still stuck on the answer let’s just put it like this, it’s much harder to lose weight after you gain it than to try and maintain or keep your weight at a manageable level before the holidays. Creating healthy habits for yourself can carry on into the holidays and after if you start now. This is a fact and not fiction.

New Year, new me! What is going to be the difference between this year and last? What goals are you setting and accomplishing, how are you or those around you going to help hold you accountable for the things that you say you want? A goal without a plan is just a wish. And you’ve been wishing for a long time. When is enough enough and for you to make some serious changes?

According to U.S. News 80% of people give up on their New Years resolution by the second week of February. What the? Not even two months??!?! The reality is, it takes any where from 30-90 days to develop a new behavior. Therefore, it’s not as easy as just waking up on January 2nd and saying "I’ve changed!" Sorry but it just doesn’t work that way.

I can give you all of the many reasons things may not have worked for you in the past but if you’re really serious about accomplishing what you say you want to accomplish… you already know why you didn’t achieve what you said you were going to. But the true question is, what the hell are you doing about it? As Albert Einstein once said "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."

Let me tell you one reason that is at the top. (Well the top of my list) You don’t have the support that you need. Nobody can accomplish anything without help. You may be hesitant about hiring someone after you just spent thousands of dollars on others and nothing on yourself. Yea, that was me being a smart a$$. But ask yourself, when is it your time? When do you say yes to you and say yes you deserve better? New Years? NO! Now dang it. I absolutely believe that you can do anything that you put your mind to but you have to break cycles.

This is not about what you have done in the past this is simply a way to show patterns and prepare you for your future. When we know better we can then do better. We must first acknowledge our behavior patterns before we can fix them.

Lastly, If you can get through Thanksgiving, Christmas with a healthy new mindset you can absolutely do anything once the new year starts. But it starts with the change of a mindset, creating goals etc...but most importantly it starts with you. It starts today.

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